According to a new study lead by sixth-year graduate student Amie Gordon, sleep deprivation makes some people more self-centered and consequently express less gratitude toward romantic partners.

Gratitude is vital in relationships of all kinds. But maybe there is a link between that all-nighter spent writing a paper and that argument that happened the next day?

This is why we at the Clog now have the best prescription for relationship health: Sleep all day. Preferably together. Adopt the sleeping schedule of cats. When you and your partner manage to wake up for the same three hours once a week, the conversation will be all excuse-me’s and thank-you’s.

Remember that Depeche Mode song “Enjoy the Silence”? Well, you can’t talk when you’re sleeping. We believe we have taken this study to its natural conclusion.

This is also why we believe us mega-sleepers are so generous and friendly. Thanks Ms. coffee-lady, we’re well rested and can now properly empathize. Have a massive tip. And Mr. cut-me-off-on-the-freeway? Thanks for not crashing into us, we guess.

Another point in Gordon’s study — who’s pursuing a doctorate in social-personality psychology — is that the expression of gratitude actually affects a person’s mental and physical health. It can lead to “fewer headaches and stomachaches, as well as better cardiovascular health.”

In the back of our minds, most of us know that emotions are biological. Chemicals and whatnot. But sometimes we like to pretend that they’re not. This may be why the expression of gratitude improving someone’s physical health comes as a surprise. Good emotions, good health.

Gordon also said that this “could be another point of research for how other bodily mechanisms, such as feeling hunger or being cold, can affect emotions.” Truly fascinating. Who knew our emotions were so much at the whim of our physical circumstances? We look forward to hearing more.

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You may have seen some of the “Date My School” fliers recently posted around campus.
Date my school? What? Like back in the 90’s where TV commercials showed kids professing their love for breakfast cereal, only to have a sibling tease, “then why don’t you marry it?” Well, turns out DateMySchool.com is actually a student-oriented dating site (like Match.com or OKCupid.com), but it’s exclusively for current college students and alumni. Created by Jean Myer and Balazs Alexa of Brooklyn, NY, the new site aims to network like-minded undergrads and graduates looking for everything from “cuddling” to “long-term dating.” (Yes, cuddling is a checkable item under a user’s “looking for” section.) read more »

facebookHow many times have you heard someone say that they’re just “stalking their ex on Facebook?”

We’re guessing quite a few.

Researchers recently studied over 300 undergraduate students to find out if Facebook sparks jealousy in romantic relationships. About 75 percent of participants were “at least somewhat likely” to be Facebook friends with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, while just about 79 percent of participants were aware that their current partner is friends with a former flame.

The study found that women spend more time on the site than men (41 minutes per day, as opposed to a mere 30 minutes) and also ranked significantly higher on what we’ll call “the Facebook jealousy index.”

Here are a few reasons the researchers think Facebook is correlated with jealousy: read more »

This one goes out to all you lovers out there: We might have discovered the cure to your relationship! And just in time (kind of) for Valentine’s Day! The Clog is so thoughtful, right? (OK, so maybe it wasn’t us, per se, who discovered it, but how many of you regularly check the News Center? That’ s what we thought.)

So are you ready for the secret? read more »